
It allowed him to tease me about things, and he learned very quickly that if he teased me, I was fine. "It allowed me to joke about things that might be uncomfortable. "I think the humor bridged a lot of things," Harte says. He also communicated by blinking, which his family and nurses can translate into letters and words based on a spellboard. While taking care of him, Harte would joke with Patrick, and he would laugh - an involuntary action unimpeded by the stroke. When she came to the Steins' home to be his nurse, she and Patrick quickly connected. She knew she couldn't stay up late trying to be "the next Ellen DeGeneres" and still get up early to go to work the next morning. She's also dabbled in stand-up comedy and done some writing but decided years ago that nursing was her calling. That's when he met Harte, who has been a nurse for 35 years. Patrick needed 24-hour care, including nurses and physical therapists. Her goal was simply to finish without medical aid. Her swim was more like a paddle, she had to stop often on the bike, and there was no running on the run. She was 1,032nd out of 1,033 women, and it took her 4 hours, 10 minutes, 19 seconds to complete the 750-meter swim, 24.5K bike and 5K run - almost three hours after the winning woman.

When she first tried to put on a sports bra, she wrote it was like losing a wrestling match with "a pink straitjacket." Yet Harte completed the Life Time Tri Chicago Triathlon that year. I'll keep my eye out for the ambulance on the side of the road." When she texted him that summer 2012 to say she was riding her bike to his house, his response was, "OK, great. Three years ago, when she told her friend Patrick Stein that she'd decided to do a sprint triathlon in Chicago, he burst into laughter. She is 55, overweight and, until recently, hadn't been able to jump.

- As a triathlete, Mary Jo Harte is a great comedian.
